I drew this card last week and just wanted to ruminate on it before posting. I have often lacked the will to enforce boundaries with people but I am getting better at it.
BOUNDARIES – YARROW (Achillea millefolium)
While on a reading group and being either ignored or browbeaten despite putting some effort into reading books with the group and contributing thoughtful write-ups, I decided that these people were not wanting to challenge themselves or admit anyone with different ideas. It seemed to be more about statistics and who had read the most books than actual discussion. I left once but was persuaded to come back; the second time I simply left without a fuss.
Part of boundaries is deciding to hang around people who are positive, creative and have imagination and want to learn different things and explore. If it means reading on my own than that’s what it means. I’ve got my reading nook exactly as I like it now.
During a visit by a family member whom I rarely enforce boundaries with, I decided to be more careful of what I said and it went well. I shall continue my awareness of such things.
An important card and visually one of my favourites in this deck. I had yarrow in one of our gardens years ago and there’s a bit of the feeling of coming back to myself and my own interests with this card.
This is my 9-year anniversary on WordPress. We must have a post then.
OLD MANS BEARD – SENSE OF HUMOUR – (Clematis vitiable) [sic]
While vitiable is an actual word, I think that is a typo on the card (caused by an over-eager spell-check facility on a computer perhaps) as no clematis exists with that name, the name I found for Old Man’s Beard is Clematis vitalba. It is also called Wild Clematis or Traveller’s Joy; another UK plant that I am not familiar with, and we do have it in Canada on Southeast Vancouver Island, imagine that. It’s quite invasive and can choke other plants out, which is similar to the way humour can get away from you and be infectious.
I didn’t realize it but this plant is one of the ingredients in the Bach Flower Rescue Remedy and the essence be used on its own for for dreaminess and inattention. Oh, those candy floss dreams, they can surely get away with your attention.
So, the old Clematis comes to see me today. Be playful, surrender to what is, pay attention to your candy floss daydreams. All those seeds scattering about can manifest a good outcome.
Go wild, order that new sewing machine. Done.
You’ve got to watch sewing machines and their fondness for candy floss.
GOLDEN IRIS – DISCERNMENT – (Iris pseudacorus)
I like the line on the card about “…mastering the impulses that impair good judgement.”
“Water only those things that sustain and help you to thrive.”
I am chipping away at appliquéing two doilies that a friend made me as a housewarming gift. It is hurting my arm so I have to prop it up more carefully on pillows to provide support for my elbow. It is getting a bit discouraging, but they look so beautiful I have to persevere. Such fine crocheting, and I don’t crochet so I am loving these beauties.
Yesterday I was looking (again) at Janome sewing/quilting machines and considering if I could afford the Memory Craft 8900 with money from my deceased father. It’s a whopping price but the mere thought of doing automatic buttonholes and machine quilting on something other than a 25 year-old machine is appealing. The old machine can’t handle machine quilting well any more and I’ve got at least 11 tops to quilt, and several others planned. Quilting is indeed one of the things that help me thrive.
Perhaps Golden Iris is telling me to master my impulse? The meaning of the botanic name is “false acorus” which makes me think of impulses as false, not what they seem.
Well, I went into the Janome dealer last year and was frightened off by prices, but I might venture in with some questions about other models. I was making notes yesterday, watering the golden idea.
SAGENESS – BRAMBLE – (Rubus fruticosus)
This is a European Blackberry, often found in hedgerows in the UK, but I didn’t realize it had such an attractive flower.
“What is important to you will come forth and be visible.”
I like the idea that by reorganizing my bedroom the things that are important to me become visible—this is so true for these weeks in my life.
Change direction and overcome obstacles sayeth the card. My obstacles are the usual pain and fatigue. It was sunny today and yesterday, so I did some laundry and I had several quilt tops stacked outside on my portable clothes dryers, enjoying the sun and sea air.
The more I freshen and tidy, the more I find to do, but I’m feeling pretty worn out today so I’m going to start basting some appliqué for accent pillows to go with my new duvet.
Something gentle for today I think, I shall hide and rest in the brambles and smell the Spring air.
JASMINE – INNER BEAUTY (Jasminum officinale)
Jasmine is my favourite scent. It’s in my favourite tea and my favourite perfume and the scent is wonderful. I’m not sure about aromatherapy but I do feel good when I put my perfume on in the mornings. I went without this cologne for years, but last year I decided I was worth it and bought a bottle for $90.
In this deck the card is about feeling strong by enhancing unconditional love for yourself and others, and self-compassion on days when you feel ugly or resentful.
I often enjoy looking at card decks and what people are doing with them online. It’s heartening to see younger people loving their card decks. I saw one young girl tearing up as she talked about a card in a deck validating her. I see that expression a lot lately. Validate means to make legally valid, valid comes from the Latin for strong or to make strong.
Why would a card make you feel legally strong, as if without it you were not legal or legally strong? Some psychology terms, far from being empowering, seem bent on making us feel weak and helpless. “Unconditional love” is another psychology term that makes us feel weak. There is no such thing as unconditional love, therefore you won’t feel it and you’ll always feel weak.
If you are alive you are validated. If you love it is enough, without the condition of being unconditional.
Mmmm, smell that jasmine.
I finally ordered a duvet cover that I can afford. It’s rather conventional but suits the colouring of the room. I also got two plastic bins unpacked, one more big one to go.
I chose this card because I thought it went with the fabric pattern of my duvet cover. One track mind can now move on.
HEATHER – Calluna vulgaris
I have heather in a pot by my garage. I like the thought on this card: “Uncertainty can create all kinds of stress within your body.” I am not a shopper so to have to shop and be uncertain gives me the whim-whams.
After scanning and entering four new decks into my database, I thought I’d play around with these. I laid the cards out in seven rows and dealt them; I don’t riffle shuffle large decks like this and prefer putting them in piles and doing a small mediation as I do so. Wouldn’t you know, I drew the same card as last time.
BLACKTHORN – SURVIVAL INSTINCTS
I didn’t realize that these trees look so similar to a hawthorn tree. I wonder…we had a tree that self-seeded on our old property and I thought it was a hawthorn but it wasn’t. I wonder if it was a blackthorn though? The birds ate fruit and their droppings planted the tree, and the tree grew like mad. That tenacity reminds me of the title on this card.
I saw some lovely postage stamps of hawthorns online so I included a sample in this montage along with a botanical illustration.
Yesterday I was looking at duvet covers at Wayfair, and they had a lot of bright covers with splashy botanicals like this. I was thinking that I need something bright and modern to take away the frumpiness of my bed. Miss Blackthorn agrees with me I think, given the similarities between her card colours and the duvet colours.
We favour these two:
“Which one?” she says to me. Juggling the sword of decision, she disparages my lack of resolve in making a decision.